Conflict Resolution
Conflict resolution among family members is essential, especially when emotions are running high. When family dynamics are strained, it can hinder the effectiveness of caregiving and support. The goal of resolving conflict is to foster understanding, empathy, and cooperation, ultimately benefiting everyone involved, especially a loved one with Alzheimer’s or a related dementia.
Benefits of Working as a Family Unit Include:
Working in harmony: For a loved one with dementia, knowing those within their support system are working together cohesively can bring comfort, reduce their own anxiety, and promote a sense of peace. This collaboration also ensures that everyone is on the same page resulting in a more effective plan of care. Keep in mind, everyone has their strengths, use this while strategizing on how to determine who gets what care task.
Creating a Supportive and Harmonious Environment: When family members work together to resolve conflicts, it creates a more supportive, harmonious environment that can positively impact the well-being of a loved one who is struggling with Alzheimer’s or a related dementia. Stress and tension within the family can have negative effects, both emotionally and physically, so resolving disputes helps reduce stress for all those involved.
Tips To Resolve Family Conflict:
Stay Calm and Listen
Before reacting, take a deep breath and try to remain calm. Emotional responses can escalate a situation, so it’s important to stay composed.
Give each person a chance to speak without interruptions. Active listening shows respect and helps you understand the root of the issue.
Acknowledge Emotions
Recognize and validate everyone’s feelings. People often want to feel heard, so acknowledging emotions (even if you don’t agree with them) can ease tension.
Use phrases like "I understand you're feeling upset" or "I can see how that situation made you frustrated."
Communicate Clearly and Respectfully
Be honest and assertive but avoid being aggressive. Speak from your own perspective using "I" statements rather than "You" statements (e.g., "I feel hurt when..." instead of "You always...").
Avoid blaming or criticizing, as that can put others on the defensive.
Find Common Ground
Try to identify shared goals or values. What are you all trying to achieve? Whether it’s family harmony, understanding, or simply resolving the issue at hand, finding common ground can shift the focus away from the conflict itself. If you aren’t on the same page with what’s in the best interest of your loved one, start with the basics, safety!
Agree on Boundaries
Set clear boundaries to prevent future conflicts. For example, if certain topics are too sensitive to discuss, agree to approach them differently or at an appropriate time.
Seek Outside Help
If conflicts continue to escalate or are particularly complex, consider seeking mediation from a family counselor. Sometimes an impartial third party can help facilitate productive discussions.
Every family is unique, and not all solutions work in every situation. But the goal is to foster an environment where respect, understanding, and cooperation can thrive, even during disagreements.
