Coping with Family Dynamics
When a loved one is stricken with Alzheimer’s, the dynamics of a family can undergo big changes.
Dear Caregivers,
With one child heading back to college, and two preparing to get married over the next year, my family is very much on my mind these days. And family matters are probably on your mind, too.
When a loved one is stricken with Alzheimer’s, the dynamics of a family can undergo big changes. As the challenges and responsibilities of caregiving grow deeper, already-existing tensions between some members of a family can increase, particularly if one or more family members feel that they are shouldering a greater part of the burden. However, this trying process may also promote healing among members of a family as they tackle a common concern, and bonds between family members can grow stronger.
Here are a few tips on how to manage family dynamics:
Keep the Lines of Communication Open: Some families schedule regular weekly meetings to chat by phone or in person, so everyone can get updated, and each family member has a chance to express their concerns, hopes, and other feelings. Other families have a shared texting thread where everyone can get regular updates, photos, etc.
Educate Everybody: Family caregivers typically do not plan to take on their roles, and so educating yourself and your family about the basics of Alzheimer’s and its effects can clear up misconceptions. That will help prepare everyone for what to expect as the disease’s progression, which can help alleviate stress.
Share the Burden: While in most cases, it’s important to have a main point of contact in coordinating the caregiver duties, it’s equally important to share the caregiving tasks as much as possible among family members who are able to help out, even if it’s only on a temporary basis.
Get Support: There are many local support groups for families who are taking care of a loved one suffering from Alzheimer's. Your NAN Navigator can help you find these resources, which can be a great source of comfort and shared practical advice. There are also therapists, counselors, and social workers who specialize in helping caregivers cope with changing family dynamics.
Realize Everyone’s Limitations, Including Your Own: Remember that every family member has different needs, talents, and resources such as time and money. Make sure you understand what each family member is capable of, and respect those limitations.
Having a loved one suffering from Alzheimer's can have a huge effect on family dynamics. But through communication, empathy, and education, families can successfully navigate this journey together, sometimes making the family bonds stronger.
Here is some more guidance on navigating family dynamics:
Understanding the Stages and Symptoms of Alzheimer's Disease:
While Alzheimer's disease develops slowly over many years and every person has a unique path through the illness, there are some common symptoms. These collections of symptoms have been grouped into various stages of disease progression. Here are the basics that you should know.
Caregiver’s Plan B:
No family caregiver wants to think they wouldn't be able to help their loved one. But the chance that something could happen to you that would make it impossible for you to provide the care and support that you do now makes it critical you identify an individual who would be the best “Plan B” caregiver. This person will be able to quickly take over as advocate and guardian for your Loved One in the event that is needed. Here’s how to create your Plan B.
Finding your Caregiving Village:
There is a lot we can all learn from each other as we endure our individual journeys as caregivers. There are some needs and feelings that are universal and learning how others manage and navigate can often be hugely comforting. Here’s how to find your caregiving village.
Remember, if you can’t find the information you need on our website, you can always “Ask NAN” by clicking on this link.
Best,
Rosemary D Laird, MD, MHSA
Founder and Chief Medical Officer
“Family is not an important thing. It’s everything.”
— Michael J. Fox
