Embrace the Changes!
In a world where the only thing that keeps constant is change itself, coping with change requires cultivating a set of behaviors that help you stay strong as you navigate that change.
Dear Caregivers,
This weekend marks the beginning of Autumn. And while we Floridians don’t typically feel the dramatic changes of weather as, say, those living in New England, the advent of the new season serves as a reminder to all of us, particularly caregivers, that change is a constant, ongoing feature in our lives and the world around us.
Certainly, your life has undergone significant change as you have taken on your caregiving duties, and further changes will no doubt transpire along your journey.
In a world where the only thing that keeps constant is change itself, coping with change requires keeping a positive perspective, embracing and adapting to change as it occurs, and cultivating a set of behaviors that help you stay strong as you navigate that change. These might include:
Learn Acceptance: Change is a natural part of life. The changes that come to our body as we age are a good example. Blurred vision and creaky knees come to all of us of a certain age. I won’t ask you to be happy about it, but please avoid undue stress and suffering that comes with too much resistance. Practice acceptance and find adaptations. You will find yourself more at peace in the midst of transformation.
Embrace Flexibility: Understanding that change will inevitably happen, and that you will need to adapt to it, will give you just the foundation you need to make the best of the change. That kind of flexibility will help reduce the amount of stress you feel from the inevitable changes.
Focus on the Present: Certainly, a lot caregiving for your loved one involves planning for the future, but within that framework also make sure you embrace the present, too. Keep in mind that there are unique moments of joy, satisfaction, and contentment to savor in the present, even amidst changing times.
Cultivate Gratitude: Set aside a regular time to reflect on and appreciate all the positive aspects of your life. Even in times of change and loss, recognizing and being thankful for life’s blessings can be a source of contentment.
Train for Change: To be your best at coping with change, make sure you get regular exercise, eat healthily, get enough sleep, make time for yourself, and stay connected with your community and support networks.
Seek Support: Your NAN Navigator is always there as your trusted companion on this journey, but building a strong support network of friends and family can also bolster your emotional resilience and provide further support.
As the changing seasons demonstrate, change is an inevitable part of life. By embracing change, being flexible, having a resilient mind and body, and leaning on your community support, you can find peace and contentment amidst the impermanent nature of our existence.
Here is some more guidance for coping with change:
Caregiver Burnout: How to Cope:
Caregiving for someone suffering from Alzheimer’s disease is one of the most challenging jobs in the world, and it comes with a risk of what is known as “Caregiver Burnout.” With caregiver burnout, you are in a state of physical, emotional, and mental exhaustion that may also be coupled with a change in your attitude towards your caregiving role, from one of positive, caring, and rewarding to one of feeling negative, unconcerned, and resentful. Here are some strategies for preventing burnout.
Caregiver’s Plan B:
No family caregiver wants to think they wouldn't be able to help their loved one. But if something happens to you that would make it impossible for you to provide the care support you do now, it is critical that you identify an individual who is the best “Plan B” caregiver, able to quickly take over as advocate and guardian for your Loved One in the event that is needed. Having that “Plan B” in place is sure to give you greater peace of mind about coping with unpredicted changes, and thereby reduce your overall stress. Here’s how to create your caregiver Plan B.
Strategies to Reduce Caregiver Anxiety and Depression:
Caregivers are at risk of both anxiety and depression, and it’s important to learn about the signs of each, and strategies for dealing with these reactions to the stress of caregiving. Here are strategies to reduce caregiver anxiety, and caregiver depression.
Remember, if you can’t find the information you need on our website, you can always “Ask NAN” by clicking on this link.
Best,
Rosemary D Laird, MD, MHSA
Founder and Chief Medical Officer
“God, grant me the serenity to accept the things I cannot change, the courage to change the things I can, and the wisdom to know the difference.”
— Reinhold Niebuhr
