From the desk of Rosemary Laird, MD
Founder of Navigating Aging Needs (NAN), LLC
Managing Difficult Behaviors
Some of the most difficult challenges in caring for someone with Alzheimer’s disease and related disorders include times when your loved one becomes irritable, agitated, disoriented, and/or angry, and exhibits behaviors that are difficult to deal with such as wandering, or its opposite, clinging. Here are some coping strategies.
Caring for the Caregiver!
For most caregivers, learning that a loved one has a progressive memory loss disorder such as Alzheimer’s is a sudden signal that their lives are about to change, with tremendous responsibilities and difficult decisions ahead. But it’s also a signal that you need to ensure that you take care of your own well-being, too, so that you’ll be able to give the best care possible to your loved one in the coming years.
The Future is Now!
Planning for your loved one’s legal and financial future is a vitally important part of any caregiver’s duties. However, even in the most loving families these subjects are often taboo, especially between parents and adult children: Unfortunately, when Alzheimer’s disease is progressing there are many ways legal and financial affairs can become problematic. Given these challenges, there is a critical need to have a strategy for the future, and equally important to have a strategy for how to discuss this with your loved one.
Changing Emotions
To understand how Alzheimer's disease impacts your loved one’s emotions, it is important to keep in mind that Alzheimer’s disease can affect different parts of the brain in different ways. This imbalance contributes to the common emotional symptoms associated with Alzheimer’s, which include depression, apathy, anxiety, fear, and agitation.
Your Greatist Hits!
Here at the midpoint of the year are the top articles that our collective community has been accessing most often through the year -- these are your top ten “greatest hits”.
When Memory Fades
The Fourth of July holiday is a day of fireworks and BBQs, but it’s also a day to reflect on our country’s history, and perhaps your and your loved one’s personal memories of Independence Day in the past. I hope that you and your loved one find some fun activities to celebrate the holiday. At the same time, I hope that you find some time to reflect on the nature of how we keep our memories, and learn how to best cope with Alzheimer’s devastating effects on this precious gift.
Staying Safe!
Of all the basic needs that humans require, safety is one of the most fundamental. As we all know, concerns about our loved one’s safety can be a dominating theme of our thoughts and activities day and night. At NAN we know your first thoughts are always about what your loved one needs, and we admire your dedication! But it's part of our job to keep you safe as well.
Celebrate Freedom on Juneteenth
This week we celebrate the newest of Federal holidays, though the day has been observed in parts of the U.S. for more than 150 years. That holiday is Juneteenth, which marks the anniversary of June 19th, 1865 when an officer and his Union Army troops read an order in Galveston, Texas that forced Texas enslavers to free their slaves. It’s a time we can all renew our collective American spirit and sense of community. Read on to learn how you and your loved one can join in the observance.
It’s OK to Play!
We all know that caregiving is very hard work. It takes patience, determination, and whole lot of grit to get through the day. But it’s important to remember that amidst all this work, you need to make time for you, and your loved one, to play.
The Critical Importance of Communication
Communication is one of the hallmarks of the human species. While other animals and plants have ways to signal each other, our ability to have conversations is uniquely human. Children are born with the innate ability to learn one or more languages that they hear around them, simply by listening. Unfortunately, in people suffering from Alzheimer’s disease this precious gift begins to erode, making conversation more difficult.
Getting Ready for Summer
When Gershwin wrote “summertime and the livin’ is easy,” he certainly captured the allure of the season, but I doubt he ever lived in Florida in June, July or August! For you and your loved one, these coming summer months of heat, humidity -- and hurricanes! -- present potential risks. But as your mother always said, “An ounce of prevention….”
Practicing Gratitude
Being a caregiver to a loved one suffering from Alzheimer’s disease can sometimes be overwhelming. There are medical concerns, emotional upheavals, financial worries, and anxiety about what the future will bring. There is something that can make your burden a little lighter: As counter-intuitive as it may seem, we can all benefit from feeling grateful.
The Importance of Perspective
Putting things in perspective is one of the great Caregiver superpowers. Your loved one’s health, your family, your job, your own emotions, can all be overwhelming at times. It is during these times that we all need to practice putting things into perspective. Here are some great ways to develop that skill.
Let's Celebrate Our Diversity!
Cinco de Mayo is observed far more in America than in the country in which it originated. This is why the holiday is uniquely American, because it reflects the joy of people all over the U.S. in celebrating our country’s remarkable array of cultures. Here are some tips to help you and your loved one explore the benefits of our great national cultural diversity.
The Importance of Asking Questions
Sometimes it’s hard to ask a question. Perhaps we’re concerned about appearing to be uninformed, or we don’t want to have to bother someone, or maybe we don’t know who to go to in order to ask the question. And sometimes there are questions we don’t even know that we need to ask! Yet the quest for answers is part of every caregiver's experience. In the Zen Buddhist tradition, there is a concept of "beginner's mind." Having a “beginner’s mind” means being open to new ideas, an eagerness to learn, and not having any preconceptions about your topic. Here are some of the questions that have arisen among our caregiving community:
Make Every Day “Earth Day”
More than a half century ago, astronauts aboard the Apollo spacecraft took the first color photograph of the earth as it rose over the surface of the moon. Described as “the most influential environmental photograph ever taken,” the image showed the brilliant blue marble of our home against the stark gray and black of the moon and space, driving home the point that we are all “space travelers” aboard our precious planet. As we celebrate Earth Day on this Friday, April 22nd, it is important to keep in mind that each of us plays a crucial role in keeping our home, inside and outside, safe, sustainable, and as full of joy as we can manage. Here are some tips on how to get the best out of your “home planet:”
Planting a Seed
With the warmer weather and sunnier skies of April, much of the nation’s attention is turning green with thoughts of gardening. With the threat of freezing weather now gone, people everywhere are tilling their soil and planting seeds with hopes of a bountiful harvest.
As Family Caregivers we too can learn the value of planting seeds for future growth. The seeds you plant today with your loved one will no doubt bear fruit down the road. Here are a few tips on how to prepare the way for your caregiving journey.
The Power of Practice
As a Caregiver, your innate skills of compassion and caring are put to the test every day. But it’s important to remember that, with practice, you can train your body and mind to be more resilient and have a greater impact on your loved one’s overall condition. Remember too that you have your own “coach” — your NAN Navigator — who is your dedicated partner in this journey. Here are some tips for helping to make every day a winner.
Dealing with Change
It seems that we’re in times of tremendous change all around us. But it’s important to remember that there is reason for tremendous hope, too, as you navigate this changing landscape — and that NAN is your dedicated partner in this journey. Your NAN Navigator will help you assess your situation, give you practical advice for improving what you can, and connect you with the resources and expertise that can help you succeed. To help with that process, here are some tips for dealing with these times of great change.
Find the Right Balance in Your Caregiving Life!
Happy Spring! The new season’s beginning is marked by an astronomical event known as the Vernal Equinox, which took place last Sunday. The Equinox occurs at the point in the earth’s orbit around the Sun where there is 12 hours of sunlight and 12 hours of darkness — a perfect balance between night and day.
The coming of the new season is an important reminder that as a caregiver, you need to strive to find that same “perfect balance” in your life.