The Real Meaning of Independence Day
Dear Caregivers,
Independence Day means different things to different people: Some see it as a chance to start off the summer with a cookout and family and friends. Others celebrate by contemplating the founding of the nation, and the joys and responsibilities of having “freedom.”
For caregivers, the concept of independence takes on a different meaning when their loved one develops the tragic symptoms of Alzheimer’s disease. Certainly, your own feelings of independence evolve, since you now have someone who is very dependent on you. And your loved one is no doubt troubled by their own diminishing capabilities in caring for themselves.
Still, it’s important to remember that while the Declaration of Independence was the beginning of freedom for the Colonies, it took several years before the United States became a nation with the goal of, as the U.S. Constitution states in its preamble, “to form a more perfect union.”
And this is an important reminder on this holiday: Yes, you and your loved one may feel that you are losing some aspects of your independence. But at the same time, you are forming a “more perfect union,” bonded together by love and care in a partnership, and creating a new world where you are seeing through this disease together.
Part of that world may one day involve your needing more assistance getting through the day and ensuring your loved one has the care they need. Here is some guidance:
Adult Day Centers:
“Adult Day” centers are intended to help provide care and companionship for your loved one who needs assistance or supervision throughout the day. Adult Day can provide valuable respite to caregivers while encouraging socialization and engagement for your loved one. Here is a list of local adult day centers that might be useful in your caregiving journey.
A Guide to Touring and Choosing an Assisted Living Facility:
When choosing an assisted living facility, research and guidance from a placement advisor are valuable, but it’s still important to take a tour in person. This allows you to see things firsthand and begin to make connections to the facility staff who will be caring for your loved one. Here’s a guide.
Residential Care Options for Your Loved One:
If your loved one is at a point in their disease’s progression that they can no longer live on their own, you need to choose a facility to provide what is called “residential” care. There are several types of such facilities, and knowing the options for each kind of facility will help as you consider your loved one’s needs. Here’s an overview.
Remember, if you can’t find the information you need on our website, you can always “Ask NAN” by clicking on this link.
Best,
Rosemary D Laird, MD, MHSA
Founder and Chief Medical Officer
“We are all dependent on one another, every soul of us on earth.”
— George Bernard Shaw
