It’s All a Matter of Perspective!
Dear Caregivers,
Arguably two of the greatest inventions in science are the telescope and the microscope. Researchers use telescopes to bring remote and distant objects in the universe into closer view; microscopes reveal the minute details and inner workings of the things around us.
Caregivers, too, can benefit from thinking about their efforts as if they were looking through these two lenses: Using a “telescope” frame of mind to be looking ahead—anticipating changing needs, considering what matters most, and making decisions for the future. At the same time, caregivers need to be able to focus their attention on the details of the day--noticing small changes, managing everyday needs, and finding the next step forward to address the challenges of the moment.
Both perspectives are vitally important, and important, too, is finding a balance between the two views. Too much time looking through the telescope can leave you overwhelmed by what might happen months or years from now. Focusing too much on a microscopic view of endless details risks losing sight of your loved one as a person, and your larger goals for their care.
Some days require that you focus on the next appointment, decision, or simply getting through the day. Other days give might give you the opportunity to look farther ahead and ask: Are we headed in the direction that is right for our family? Do we have a “Plan B,” in case we have an unexpected major turn of events? Your NAN Navigator has the resources to help you find this balance, helping you pay close attention to today’s details while keeping the bigger, long-term picture in sight.
Here are some more resources to help you balance your perspective:
Caregiver’s Plan B:
No family caregiver wants to think they wouldn't be able to help their loved one. But the chance that something could happen to you that would make it impossible for you to provide the support you do now makes it critical you identify an individual who is the best “Plan B” caregiver, able to quickly take over as advocate and guardian for your loved one in the event that is needed. Here's how to build your Plan B.
The Basics of Advance Directives:
In situations where your loved one cannot speak for themselves, medical personnel will turn to the next of kin to get help in making important health decisions. It is important to have your loved one’s wishes of how to respond in a serious medical situation be known in advance, through several documents such as an Advanced Directive and Living Will. Here's what you need to know.
Activities for a Good Day:
Here's a list of dozens of activities to help keep your loved one occupied and engaged during the day.
Best,
Rosemary D Laird, MD, MHSA
Founder and Chief Medical Officer
“Great things are done by a series of small things brought together."
— Vincent van Gogh
